Having Experienced parricide personally I can tell you it is a situation of self defense. Even though the events of parricide commonly happen when the parents are not expecting it and the courts deem the battered child guilty because the threat was not “imminent,” what you people don’t understand is when the events that lead to parricide have been continuing over such a long period- they are imminent! When the nightmare continues to happen and it just gets worse and worse and you know it’s going to happen again that makes it imminent!
If another country is going to attack us and we know it’s coming it’s ok in military maneuvers to get the jump and attack first. That’s called a pre-emptive strike. Okay, so why then is a “pre-emptive strike” not ok in a home where you have grown up under a parent who rules the home as if it were a Nazi concentration camp? (And I am NOT exaggerating.) It’s not ok to be in a state of shell shock – yeah, that’s the WWI term for post traumatic stress disorder — and fight for your life?
We want to believe that the only ones who have experienced PTSD are those who have gone to war. Well, there are many kinds of war and many different battlefields, including those upon which helpless children must fight upon every hour of every day. It is impossible for outsiders, even friends and family, to see what truly goes on in parricide situations — just as it took many years to understand what the Nazis were actually doing.
People: you weren’t there, you are not God, you don’t know and you will never truly understand until you experience it.
I pray you will never have to go through what Jacob and I and millions of others have endured, but sadly I believe many of you will.
I’ve learned that those who pass judgment about things of which they know nothing generally learn, to their regret (or enlightenment.)
Fate/ karma/God/whatever seems to lead each of us to difficult experiences so that we can learn.
And perhaps learn NOT to judge so quickly.
I personally would absolutely love to see those prosecutors who prosecute and judges who sentence parricide children to prison experience one week with my mother when she was at her peak. I would bet money within one measly week they would start to think a different way and I wouldn’t give even a year before either the prosecutor or judge or my mom would be dead.
I challenge anyone who says parricide kids are wrong for their actions with one question: If you had someone doing things to you like Jacob’s parents and other sick people do – do you honestly think you would deserve prison for saving yourself? I killed my parents when I was 18 for the same reasons- I did not go to jail – I paid my dues another way.
You can read about it in my book “Inherited Rage” by Lone Heron – Www.amazon.com
You will find my blogs under Mary Ellen’s blogs at www.pendulumfoundation.comSign a petition for Jacob Ind. Jacob’s been behind bars 20 years now. He has a lifetime to go. http://www.change.org/petitions/free-jacob-ind-and-other-abused-kids